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David Rockman, MSW, RSW

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Annex location at Wellness Clinic & Spa at Bathurst & Bloor (subway)

Rosedale location also available at Sherbourne & Bloor (subway)

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About Divorce Mediation

• About Divorce Mediation
• Family Assessment
• Family Reconciliation
• Pre-Mediation
• Mediation
• Written Agreements

the eyes of most courts, as you were seen to engage in a positive process of due diligence with your ex. However, once you have a successful process of mediation, this does not usually happen.

You can save a lot of money through mediation, because you can be certain that money spent on lawyers and all the headaches associated that goes to waste is not money that is going into your pocket or more importantly is not going to be spent onyou or helping your children’s future. Through mediation you can protect the financial interests of you and your children. As well, in the unlikely event if ever your agreement falls off the rails, you can always return to a short mediation consult to put things back on track. This can often time even be done over the phone.

Keep in mind that just because you may think that any agreement is legally binding by attempting to settling matters through lawyers or courts has no bearing on any certainty that your ex will comply even if they go to jail. Further, what help would that be anyhow? In fact some ex-partners would rather draw things out as long as possible by keeping you unnecessarily engaged in a conflict and drain your resources as a means of getting back at you or in order to maintain any kind of relationship, even if it is for all the wrong reasons. Of course when we take responsibility for our direct communication, respecting ourselves and the person we once in fact felt we loved, we are less likely to get caught in such a web of gender conflict.

Remember, that when you overly rely on lawyers you are not preparing yourself for a positive post separation or divorce experience. You can avoid all this through mediation, because not only does mediation place emotional responsibility for the agreement in the hands of the people involved, it is also a positive approach in that it helps prepare you and your ex to better manage your new and future circumstances in practical ways that you yourself are in full control, (not a lawyer who makes money from protracted conflicts for high stakes and not the courts who actually do not care at all about you and your actual family situation). Through mediation you will learn how to engage in a harmonious business like relationship with your ex by having mutual and reasonable regard for one another free of all the baggage of emotional pain that gets in the way of a healthy separation or divorce process. You will learn that mediation is helping you to better treat one another and become happier again with your new life regardless if your family is no longer the same as it was, or you have to come to terms that it will never be so again.

Mediation is the answer for those who have their own interests and also the best interests of the family in mind. Mediation can efficiently bring family member’s together in a practical way free of emotional baggage where the aspirations of all those involved in a dispute are no longer in conflict, but rather aligned with one another. Mediation allows you to get on with your life in the most positive way possible.

About Separation - Divorce Mediation

By David Rockman, MSW, RSW

About Separation - Divorce Mediation cont...

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Did you know that statistics indicate that almost 50% of married couples will end up as divorced. It is no wonder, given that the stressors of marital expectations can be overwhelming and unrealistic that people will stay together for the rest of their lives. Statistics also indicate that the likelihood of second  marital “success” are even poorer due to rebounding, but that by the third marriage the success rates are very high in terms of durability! Additionally, statistics indicate that the younger the couple, the earlier and more likely they will get divorced before 10 years. We all know that divorce is especially difficult for kids. Divorce can have a traumatic impact on adults, whereby you may suffer an adjustment disturbance that can for some take as many as 4 years to totally recover emotionally. Moreover, the mental, emotional and physical disruption that separation and divorce can have on individuals and families is, I think you agree extremely minimized in society.

From a social justice perspective, it is simply not fair that so many single parent families are led by women who suffer role overload often at their own expense. As well, children need their fathers, just as much as fathers need them. It is a shame that fathers who are so often isolated and marginalized will then suffer greatly under the strain of the divorce fall out, causing long time addiction and mental health problems. Divorce can have a negative impact upon the extended family as well, causing family feuds which are also not by any means in the best interests of children or ageing grandparents either. It is well established that children that come from divorced families where there is high conflict and ill will among care givers, tend to suffer much more in terms of their mental health when they become adults. Mediation can greatly help this from not having to happen later on, as cooperation in conflict is learned  through social modelling of parents by their children.

Separation is a big business in North America and often the only people to win are lawyers and the courts involved. Therefore, one might think seriously about finding ways of reconciling marriages or common law relationships by finding the most peaceful manner of resolving such difficult and often times protracted conflicts. This is always in the best interest of our own health and well being. Lets face it, is it any wonder that after thousands of years of patriarchy where men dominated women -  that now in an era of social justice, that family courts more often fall in favour with those that are the ones that give birth to the labour force in general? Also did you know that at least 35% of families are single parent families headed by women, many of who are devastated financially and emotionally. In all good conscience, one might consider that the money you save by going to mediation, rather than protracted legal disputes can save you much time and money to help get you and your family to return to a stable and successful life direction. Also, separated parents tend to give much more and to be more involved with their children when they have resolved emotional pain related to the marriage break down and then are free to be really emotionally present to the children and to the needs of their own life cycle.

Mediation is a much more reasonable manner of resolving conflict disputes either to bring about family reconciliation or to better find the best agreements that can suit all involved once separation and or divorce are inevitable. Also, should you find that there is no other way to find a satisfactory arrangement except through divorce, you can easily get a divorce and then after your divorce application has gone through you can find the most economical way to draw up a mediated agreement with my services that are clearly delineated and satisfactory for both divorcees and for the family involved. In fact you are often better to work toward a mediated settlement and agreement during the period of separation so that you can spare yourself any future discord and stress. Any attempt to resolve your disputes through mediation will usually go in your favour if in the future you should unfortunately end up in a legal conflict in